Benefits of dating a younger man
They'll become the best, smartest and most mature version of themselves in an instant.
After seeing photos of Katie Couric and her hot, significantly younger boyfriend, we were curious whether this whole dating-a-younger-man trend is healthy for womankind.
He will be impressed by your achievements and look up to your success.
Over time this may balance out but it starts out with you as the accomplished, independent, cool one.
And rather than this being intimidating, it turns him on. With a younger dude, there is less of a chance of getting damaged goods — a guy fresh off a broken-off engagement, for instance, or finding an old live-in ex-girlfriend's body wash (Cookie dough? You'll spend all your time at your place because his is either gross or his parents' house. You'll basically never have to do a Walk of Shame in your entire relationship. The occasional late night, unexpectedly fun house party, and kinda decent obscure band whose album he burned for you? The ambivalent dudes, shitty apartments, and entry-level bullshit job? While someone a little older might worry that you're veering off the path you should stay on, a young guy will encourage you to keep ~*~*~f OLLo Wi Ng y Ou R d Re Am~*~* to become a hand model or a papier-mâché artist or whatever.
Whatever tips you suggest to him will be imprinted on his unformed brain and carried over to With great power comes great responsibility, bra. Or having you sing "The Bear Came Over the Mountain" while putting things in his butt. Being the older woman means, among other things, that you are independent, smart, and have your shit together. For instance: During sex, Nick Cannon and Mariah Carey listen to ... Because you're the grown-up, and grown-ups know better. For instance, he knows you are more familiar than he is with the job search, so he listens when you suggest that, I dunno, maybe he use Comic Sans for his resume font. He's got less romantic history for you to deal with. You can relive the most fun parts of your younger years without suffering through the worst parts. He won't judge you for quitting a job you hate, traveling around Europe, or making some other random quarter-life detour.
Here are the reasons you wave off the idea of dating young: (aimless, noncommittal, out just for sex). But it didn’t seem to fit my reasons for dating younger, nor is it an accurate or flattering explanation of why younger men are worth dating.
But that’s not a power position, and it does you no favors. Beware of wielding stereotypes; they’re cheap shortcuts masquerading as wisdom, and if you use them, prepare to be judged by them. You would only applaud someone if she succeeded in doing something impossible or crazy, or if she got away with something she shouldn’t have. The cougar image is cartoonish at best, derived either from a culture fearful of a sexually empowered woman, or from the woman herself, who claims cougardom as a way to boost her self esteem via sex with a man many years her junior.
In the presence of an older woman that they are attracted to, chances are their testosterone will get into overdrive.
You use it as a reason to blow them off, pare back your options, and fuel embittered stories about how It’s So Hard to Meet Good Men. One of my most popular posts to date is 7 Reasons Why You Should Want to Date an Older Woman. ” followed by a high five, which is kind of odd when you think about it. As I approached my mid 30s, I wondered if this meant I was now a bona fide cougar. The term conjures an image of a hungry, embattled woman with heavily coiffed hair, mummified in makeup, squeezed into a bedazzled top and looking to “score” a young man.
The problem is, you think that person has to be older than you. Just as chronological age doesn’t always “cure” one of immaturity, a man can be all of these things and still be 24, 28, 30 (depending on what you consider young). You’ve told yourself you don’t really want a younger man. Regardless of how sexually permissive and progressive we think we are, there’s still a bit of eyebrow raising when a woman dates younger. And when I tell people that (if they ask or if it comes up), I either get a lilting “Reaalllly” or a “You go girl!
Parties, rock concerts, nightclubs—I dated the way I should have when I was younger: for fun, without an eye toward marriage. During that time, when I was in my late 30s, I made an important sociological discovery: Men over 40 are profoundly different from those under 35, and it's not just their hairlines.
As much as we're loath to admit it, we base most of our expectations about a relationship on the one we observed, for better or worse, growing up at home.